Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Down the Memory Lane

Going down the memory lane is not an everyday routine; it’s definitely not something which we all do every day. But I am sure, we do have some days where we do think about them, what we were years or should we say decade ago… (Guess most of us do!!!!)

I have a dedicated time for myself, the time that is for only for ME. This unwinding time, as we call it generally is listening to some of ghazals, (Jagjit Singh for sure) in the background and reading or sometimes just sitting in front of the IDIOT BOX n surfing through the channels and not to forget about the 3rd  largest country in the world “FACEBOOK “(it definitely has made me get closer to my lost buddies).

Today, I happen to chat with a friend after almost a decade ,after exchanging the normal greets, talking about how we both have been all this years and where we have been … so on and so forth ….. We started talking about the good old days. The days when we were young, the life which was full of freedom, very little responsibilities or can say none actually!!!! . Those challenges to strive in life and achieve something, striving for that success in the career and most important the wait for those pay cheques at the end of the month (though the 4 digit ones) at the end of the month but mattered so much in those days... isn’t it!!!

This small conversation, did take me back into those yester years making me more nostalgic the whole day!!!!!

I have been missing my home … my friends and lot many things the whole day. My mind was wondering around those days when going for a movie did not need any planning, suiting at a coffee shop with friends for hours was like a ritual. When I started working, getting up at 4 o clock in the morning to join the shift at airport was never difficult; proving the point when needed was never difficult.

With the heart getting heavier, I was trying to actually think what I m sulking at? Trying to find answers, to what actually is bothering me the most, the career which came to n end at its pick? The financial freedom which I had at that time? The friends whom I miss and do not get chance to be with often? Or the life which was less of responsibility, fuss and more carefree..???

Questions are always easy!!! It’s the Answers which are difficult!!!!!

In midst of all these, I realize its afternoon already and time for my son to come home from school and hubby for lunch. Realisation of present I guess!!!!
The moment, Tanush walked in the house, surprisingly the mind automatically was diverted to the present.

The sadness and the moments of the past though stayed with me during the day but realisation of the fact was also there that you can never reverse the time. The one thing that you cannot do is to step back into the time, but yes what you can do is, think about that time and laugh, cry and nurture it!!!!!!!

At the end of the day as I again sit and watch the idiot box , I get the answer: “To get something in life you do have to give up few things, and I am proud mother and a lucky wife. I have no regrets of any kind today and am happy with WHAT I AM!!!! WHERE I AM!!!!

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Friendships Do Die !!!!!

As it is said nothing good can last forever, everything that is good comes to an end, we can say that for friendship as well. If we think that good friendship may last forever, we may be wrong. There are very few friendships which actually survive, and I would call it as they are lucky friendships.

We are taught from our childhood that ‘Friends are like diamonds, precious and rare “. We have to preserve them and always try to do everything possible in this world to keep them forever as they are very difficult to come by.

Have we ever given a thought that if we all were dormant, unchanged. If at all we never moved forward or even backwards, if there was totally no growth then I believe we all would have been able to manage and maintain most of our relationships ( which ever they may be !!!.)

Unfortunately that’s not the case, we all change with time, with circumstances and with each given situation and so do our relationships. 

In the journey of life ,we meet people and they become friends, some stick around ( that’s good !! ) , some decide to leave ( that’s good as well !! ) ,some drift away with time ( which is normal ) and some just lose touch ( that’s a common thing !!).

In past one week, I witnessed few friendships end. The association which has been long, the friends who all believed to be life-long just chose to take separate roads. We all have faced such a moment in our lives as well ,where we have lost a friend whom we held very close to our heart, in other words we all have seen “ Death of Friendship “ . We all have experienced an end of friendship we thought would never end.( I have lost one friend years back !! ) .

Just in case, you have not experienced it personally, I am sure you would have friends who have experienced it and would relate to – “we just stopped talking “!!!!

No one likes to end the friendship, but it happens. There is sadness, a void in the heart, a feeling of hurt. There is a scar which remains to the core. Has it been easy to edit things ever? No, it’s never been easy to totally edit someone out of our life. Yes, they neither would be in our present nor in the future, but they will always exist in our past.

That’s it!! They are just not there anymore.  Accept it. Life moves on isn't it?

Friendship is like a river. It flows towards its destination and on the way it meets many interesting people. Relations between friends change, so best is to accept it that they have changed. Do not wipe the slate clean, instead keep them in memories.

Reasons can be known or unknown for the friendships to die; the cause of it could be you or anyone else. But the truth is that the relationship has a crack, things are not going to be same. It’s time to learn from the experience, the best thing is to stop investing in people who do not deserve us, people who do not understand the value of friendship.

It is not a universal law that al friendships come to an end. Many friendships survive over a long period and give immense joy. Why not take our friendships as one of those types and nurture them?