Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Friend Request Accepted !!

The other day I read an article in a magazine “Are your Face- book Friends Your Real Friends “?

A wonderful thing to ponder about!!! I am no different I have 283 friends on my face-book account. How many actually are my real friends?  

Networking has become the in thing today, a collective nerve these days. Today we grieve over the discourtesy of people constantly texting while out at dinner, sitting along with friends and even while spending quality time with family.

Updating the Face book status is like telling the world what you are doing, thinking, eating. It has become a need to remain plugged in and being watched, heard, seen and tracked.

It’s the need to be constantly being connected.

I think Facebook is creating a tiered level of friends. There are friends from your past, people from your school/college with whom you had some great times, who were your real friends then but now they are memories. They are still on Facebook, friend list is ludicrous , but the fact remains that once you have friended them , you laugh over some shared memories, hit a few “ like “ buttons here and there and the conversations come to an end .     

There are friends who are some lost acquaintances , whom you had met at a relative’s wedding some dinner party , a casual get together, about whom you just happened to think one day and search them on Facebook , “viola ‘ !! They are!!! You friend them, they hit you back and that is probably the limit of the communication between the two of you.

There are your friends the ones you know and talk to in real life and they also happen to be your facebook friends as well, but you hardly have facebook interactions with them as you don’t need to because you interact with them in person on daily basis, I am sure we all have our spouse as our “friend “on our facebook account isn’t it?
Yes I agree that Face book has turned out to be an unyielding and viable resource for maintaining connections and is the wave of the present times. We definitely enjoy the extensive networks created by us, and how easily we try to deal with it and as well as nostalgic apparatus of finding old friends and delighting in the renewed connections.

Face book is   like a “village “where we know each other but we don’t necessarily talk to all of them!!!

It’s more of the popularity factor, the number of friends you have in your account will tell the world how vast network you have and how connected you are, but a Real friend? Tough to say!!!

I think what all these friends do is fit as one piece in the so called puzzle our life history , it fills in some gaps , help us see from where we came and where are  today  and give us a nice laugh.

 Face book has for sure changed the background of friendship, But to reclaim the word “Real friend “we need to actually meet someone from time to time.

Monday, July 28, 2014

Those " Black " Wishful Things !!!!!

If someone would ask me what is that one word which comes to my mind with the color “Black “ I would say “ Darkness “ !!!

And still I love the color “BLACK”!!! Why not? Everyone in the world have that one color which they love or like pink blue red green. I like black what’s wrong in that???

 I agree it denotes, negativity, grief, fear but it also considered the most formal and prestigious color (haven’t you seen the award functions, most of the celebs are dressed in black J ), it carries elegance and is considered mysterious color as well!!

And I like to be elegant and mysterious!!!!   “BLACK “is the color for me!!

I have few of my proud possessions which are BLACK, but yet there are few on the list which I would like to have in my life.

My Original Black Hair


Yes I had thick, straight and my best physical feature my black hair!! They are almost replaced! With age we all, start having grey hair or the obvious that happens is that we lose hair! for me both have joined hands , my hair have almost turned grey and the few which are left are leaving my scalp !!

With all the new techniques, of hair grafting and hair transplant it’s not difficult to get this wish fulfilled provided, they are going to remain black forever!!! Which is a bit doubtful? How much I dye it or color it, one day they all are going say adios and I will be left with only grey.

Can't it just stay black till I die!!!!

A Black Maserati MC12

It’s very close to the Ferrari supers cars, yeah not for the entire family ride, but this two seater sports car is on my wish list.

Ok I agree, it’s a totally an impractical, fantastically rubbish and overpowered by urge to show off, I believe. The look on face of people , When , I am awaiting at the traffic signal , how they  would ogle at the car , in the parking people would ask me “ is that actually  a  Maserati “ and I would reply “ yeah isn’t it a beauty “  ( I wonder if I would  even take it out  to on the roads , may be a cyclist or an auto-rickshaw would just scratch it and they wouldn’t even say sorry !!!) .

Driving it in the mornings and passing all the other striking cars!! Show off at its high, I tell you!!

A Black Horse

For me horse was always linked with cowboys or with horse race owners, but today times have changed and they are kept as companion animals for pleasure rather for work or business only. A graceful, glorious and handsome creature it is, but with a bit of wildness and that’s what attracts me the most!!

 I want to feel to be in control, or may be sometimes out of control, I want to feel the sense of freedom galloping through the hills and mountains, and as people say it’s a wild feeling!!

I wonder how would be the feeling, when I would ride in the wilderness!!!

A Black Diamond Ring

Women and jewellery go hand in hand, they can’t be separated, and I am no different!! I love to wear “Rings “!  They are the most beautiful piece of jewellery, and if it’s a diamond ring it stands for the highest standards!! It’s something that can lift up your outfit!! Isn’t it? 

I have a pearl, silver, gold, even diamond rings in different designs!! (Not to forget my artificial jeweler rings as well from plastic to metal)...

But what’s missing in the collection is unexpected, mysterious and most precious black diamond ring!! (And if my husband is reading this, gifting meaningful jewellary is an ultimate gesture!!) I wish to slip that beautiful piece of jewellary on my finger!!

 A Black Rose

Rose is the most popular flower in the world and the most beautiful in all its colors. God and mankind have not been able to produce “black rose “as yet!! And I have heard it in the vampire movies or in fiction books. It has always intrigued me, having a black rose because it is a different, unique and to some extent fun thing.

I would love to have for its uniqueness. 

This post is a part of the #WhatTheBlack  activity at

Wednesday, July 2, 2014

The Baggage

Have you seen it? How does it look? Red, Black, Green.

Of course we all have it, may be the face is different but we all carry it with us.  We have stored it in remotest part of our brain or somewhere deep in our hearts.

I call it our “Emotional Baggage “!!

Even the most flawless upbringing has its share of “Emotional Baggage “!!!

I realized that when; I met a friend after ages. She had a perfect upbringing a stay at home mom, a loving father, siblings who would do anything for each other!!! 

This perfection had somewhere spilled in her adulthood, the conflicts which she had never witnessed or had seen!!  She has far too high expectations of all the relationships she made in her life; there is no space of disagreements or conflicts!!!

And she carries the “Baggage “all the while with her!!!!!

Every day we come across an enormous ocean of sad, depressed and unfriendly faces either wizened in the crowded streets, sitting in public places, our workplace or may be in our neighborhood.

Its haunts a lot of people and the shadows of the past follow people in their dreams or even all day long.

There are few who live in constant refutation, they decide to spend their life totally detached with the real world. Whereas, you will find some people who will constantly find blame in others, everyone is wrong m except themselves.

I have come across a lot of people who are always searching for something in their life. They say, there is something missing in life, but they can’t identify what it is?

I have known few, who have not been able to carry the weight of the emotional baggage and have succumbed to it.  They feel, their existence has no meaning at all  and they find no reason at all to fight at all, to them the fight is over, if there was one in the first place.

And I have also come across people who go through the life like a jetsam. It’s like they let the current of life take them wherever, it does not really matters to them!!!

Is it that the world we are living or existing so cruel?  What causes this emotional suffering I wonder   ?

The list is long, childhood trauma, betrayals, lost hopes, poverty, broken hearts, dreams and relationships, health, financial problems and it can just go on and on...

Who is to be blamed?  the fast paced society , the material quest , toys , gadgets, the advanced technology , relationships which are getting brittle day by day , deteriorating family ties and the expectations which we have from self.

“Time is the best Healer “ but it works only you take those little steps towards the healing process!!!!!

Is everything lost? Not yet!!! Try and understand the inner voice, your needs.
There is more to life than just carrying the Emotional Baggage, that’s what I think!!!