Thursday, November 24, 2011

One Life .... why so serious ???

Have you ever thought that god gave us birth has human and human beings are the only species to whom he gifted the right to choose happiness. Now you believe it or not we have become the most serious living thing on this beautiful earth.

“Don’t take life too seriously. You will never come out of it alive; this was said by a Hubbard. A life is electrifying; thrilling experience, then why makes it boring and sloppy.

You have this one life and that is it. This is the moment, try to live at the fullest and make the most of this one life because , whether there are rebirths or reincarnations that’s a different story , but we have only this one life and we should live it at the best without any regrets.

Joy… the only opposite of seriousness!!! The creatures are like birds, animals can’t be serious one because they can’t express it, and secondly they live in the moment so they are always happy.

We have made seriousness the way of our life, we think that if will not understand the situations worth then people will think we are the biggest show offers, few may say we have do not have any respect to life.

But that’s their opinion; in my opinion enjoy life and all that it has to offer because. “They lived happily ever after “is not the ending of the fairy tales only it should be the sole purpose of every ones’ life.

The people who have only learnt to sulk in life and live with grumpy faces, they are spending major part of their lives sobbing, whereas those with happy state of mind and body take the challenges of the life with a great spirit and they are the ones who have understood the mantra. “ONE LIFE – WHY SO SERIOUS?

Saturday, November 19, 2011

What Does Life Mean To You ???


A strange question isn't it ? Yes , it may sound weird, but have we ever sat back at thought that what it actually means to us or we are just living each day as it comes by !!!!!

" Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams ."

This is what life is to me .......

What is it to you ????????

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Friendship - A biggest Treasure

I recently have come across my old friends, with whom I had lost touch over the years. Some are my school /college batch mates, some my colleagues with whom I had spent my few years working I have remembered all of them in some way or the other , by sharing what all we did with the new friends I made along the path of life.

But still they feeling of getting in touch with them again and remembering the old days really brought the thrill back in me and made me think , what a wonderful thing it is to be a FRIEND and how beautiful is FRIENDSHIP.

Friendship has certain status in our society, it is in contrast with all those relationships over which we have no control or may be a little control. The families we can’t change, neighbor’s who irritated us, and colleagues with whom we have to put up with, friends are the only freely chosen part of your life and it’s assured that those relationships are most pleasurable.

I would say friendship is just a simple bond which two people share who like each other’s company. It is definitely full on hidden assumptions and lots of unspoken words. There is no argument as to what all friendship involve, or what when it gets a little sour (as it may get sometimes), and what if you are hurt. It’s a delicate affair and I suggest why to load it with lots of demands, it’s better to absorb the hurt and retreat.

If you ask people, they define FRIENDSHIP in many ways. For some its loyalty, for some it is something which has no obligations, some would say it is more important to them then their marriage /family, few would say they would die for friendships and for few it would mean nothing at all.

Most of us feel pride about their friends, at least I do. We should be pleased that they chose you to be their friend and vice a versa. I believe that the friends reflect some important truth about who you are.

Have any one of us ever thought where do we fit in this friends lives. There is a huge uncertainty, because many of us are just connection threads. And in this absence of uncertainty and assumptions sometime we get horribly surprised!!!!!

How many times you have seen that a person who is on the top of the friend list and just one small thing or may be a big issue, the person is out of the list. OR
When you expected the most that your friend would stand by your side in your rough times and you have realized that they have all withered away.

Friendship use to be different in the past, friends use to meet often, exchange wishes and had loads of aquatancies. But today the meaning of friendship and friends everything has changed. If you can join for a drink over the weekend of course, “YOU ARE GREAT MATES “.
or for how many of us friendship has meant that caring for each other, taking care of each other children when required.

We can start to thinking about it and being more honest about our own self and what we like about our own friends, what needs they fulfill and what we are prepared to do for them.

We should create this powerful bond. It isn’t easy as friendship is as subtle dance. We all have to understand that people are unpredictable but we have to play the game of friendship .people with friends tend to live longer then the ones without, that’s what the study has said.

After all friendship defines what it means to be human.

Down the Memory Lane !!!!!!

Going down the memory lane is not an everyday routine; it’s definitely not something which we all do every day. But I am sure, we do have some days where we do think about them, what we were years or should we say decade ago… (Guess most of us do!!!!)

I have a dedicated time for myself, the time that is for only for ME. This unwinding time, as we call it generally is listening to some of ghazals, (Jagjit Singh for sure) in the background and reading or sometimes just sitting in front of the IDIOT BOX n surfing through the channels and not to forget about the 3 largest country in the world “FACEBOOK “(it definitely has made me get closer to my lost buddies).

Today, I happen to find a friend and a colleague on face book and after exchanging the normal greets, talking about how we both have been all this years and where we have been … so on and so forth ….. We started talking about the good old days. The days when we were young, the life which was full of freedom, very little responsibilities or can say none actually!!!! . Those challenges to strive in life and achieve something, striving for that success in the career and most important the wait for those pay cheques at the end of the month (though the 4 digit ones) at the end of the month but mattered so much in those days... isn’t it!!!

This small conversation, did take me back into those yester years making me more nostalgic the whole day!!!!!

I have been missing my home … my friends and lot many things the whole day. My mind was wondering around those days when going for a movie did not need any planning, suiting at a coffee shop with friends for hours was like a ritual. When I started working, getting up at 4 o clock in the morning to join the shift at airport was never difficult; proving the point when needed was never difficult.

With the heart getting heavier, I was trying to actually think what I m sulking at? Trying to find answers, to what actually is bothering me the most, the career which came to n end at its pick? The financial freedom which I had at that time? The friends whom I miss and do not get chance to be with often? Or the life which was less of responsibility, fuss and more carefree..???

Questions are always easy!!! It’s the Answers which are difficult!!!!!

In midst of all these, I realize its afternoon already and time for my son to come home from school and hubby for lunch. Realization of present I guess!!!!
The moment, Tanush walked in the house, surprisingly the mind automatically was diverted to the present.

The sadness and the moments of the past though stayed with me during the day but realization of the fact was also there that you can never reverse the time. The one thing that you cannot do is to step back into the time, but yes what you can do is, think about that time and laugh, cry and nurture it!!!!!!!

At the end of the day as I again sit and watch the idiot box , I get the answer: “To get something in life you do have to give up few things, and I am proud mother and a lucky wife. I have no regrets of any kind today and am happy with WHAT I AM!!!! WHERE I AM!!!!