Since morning my phone as been buzzing with
pictures, amidst the teachers day , ganesh chaturthi messages , my entire focus
was on the messages from my nieces.
They move in to an university campus
today, makes me happy as they are going on a different journey all by
themselves from today. A different world, different people and the most
important different country. But happiness is coupled with sadness, the thought
of walking in to my sister’s home and not seeing them, the thought of not
seeing them for a while now, and the idea of what my “Sister “ a "Mom” is going
through today, at this moment.
Thousands of young children are about to
start getting settled into their new lives at the university, making new
friends walking the new path of their lives. But what about the “MOTHERS”, it’s
a new beginning for them as well. Mothers who have changed their kids nappies ,
have seen them through their sickness, have pulled them from the betrayed
friendships. What about her the “MOM”.
The prolog of your child leaving for the
University can be or should I say is “ Stressful”. Having a child leave for
university is generally regarded as measure of success, a sense of satisfaction
that you have prepared them for the
world. But it satisfaction is followed by the grief, yes you definitely grieve
over them leaving the home. We all dread that moment , but we all have to face
that DAY in our life.
The reality sinks in when after days of
sitting on the coach and watching T.V, those late nights end and one fine
morning they start cleaning up their room and what all they need goes in those
“ Bags” placed on the bed. What is left behind are empty cup -boards and book
shelves.
The reality sinks in when in the University
all the doors welcome you with all that “Smiles”.
The reality sinks in when all of the sudden
you stand right there and all these doors began to close. The corridor becomes
empty , you stand there, that hug when you are trying to balance your emotional
and physical self !! As your child walks
pass that empty corridor making a divide between the family and
university.
What flashes in front of you ?
The first day at the kindergarten !!!
The first day at the school !!
The first day at the dance class !! and
many other first times.
You want to shout , with those wet blurred
eyes, “No !!! Not Yet !! Its too soon !!!!
I am sure you all agree that goodbye hugs
are not good they are heart wrenching , though we know that this good-bye does
not meant that they are gone forever, but yet it means we are not going to meet
for a while.
On your return!!! The “HOME” isn't the same.
On dinner tables , you have those two empty
chairs, the back seats in the car is empty when you
have to go for a social family visits!!!!
How much we have taught them to be
independent and confident in their lives, all that lessons seems to be
hopeless!!! Isn’t it ?
THE NEST IS EMPTY
And we all go through or will eventually go through the Empty Nest
Syndrome !!!
You will find few more who are in the same
situation as you, you share a tear, a laugh and create a bonding a kind of a
connection that makes you realize “you are not alone”.You have faith that they
will flourish, they will become young adults , because you have given them what
all they needed.
We all learn !!! We all accept !!!
We accept that they have embarked on new journey learning to make a new nest.
Yes, leaving behind “AN EMPTY NEST”!!!!!!!
