Y Worry

“I know worry works because nothing I worry about ever happens “. 

Worry is a silent killer, like a slow poison.   People say it’s a chronic illness, an illness which is dreadful than physical illness, because it not only effects our body but our mind too.

Frankly speaking , I also worry a lot – about the most significant things to the big things like , health , relationships , finances  -  I worry a lot !!!.  And guess because I spend so much time worrying, the particular quote attracted my attention, and my thought train started its journey!!!

Actually yes, if we think seriously we would find that it is really no use worrying about anything. It’s really foolish to worry about past or future. Nobody can change the past. What has happened has happened. As far as the future, then something that has yet not arrived, why would we let it affect us?  Many things which are going to happen will happen no matter what!! If it is going to rain, it is going to rain!!! We cannot stop it...

What has yet to come, the things we have yet to face, why spend time in worrying, and it only tires us and diminishes our competence to clear thinking and planning. Believe you me, problem solving only requires clear thinking and planning.

The things that seem today very big and important will seem trifle tomorrow. Why worry about spilled milk, or a broken glass, or a missed plane!!!

Of course, nobody worries for the sake of worrying .it comes into the mind, then decides to stay on and never leaves.  But there are people who never worry, and I wonder why can‘t I be one of them, I feel worrying is more like a bad habit, and like all habits, habit of worrying is also difficult to get rid of.

 I decided to take up a project (kind of personal project) to stop worrying and be happy.  to start with I have decided to choose one of the three things : to address the issue on hand then and there, if  I cannot do anything about it at that moment, give time to address it later, or decide it’s not at all important and let it go !!!!  To make it simple, 

Act on it, file it or throw it away!!!!!

Maybe my research project on worry will help me to lighten up, smile, and live each day in such a way.

I f you are worrying, bring to a halt your thoughts for a moment and try to snoop to the sounds around you, try to  give thought, and be present to this key moment.

Smile for no reason what so ever, you may find that's the best reason of all.

A Year Wiser !!!!!!

I celebrated my birthday a few days ago and I’m glad that times have changed those old beliefs, when celebrations were mainly to ward off evil spirits, which got attracted to people on their birthdays and to protect them, friends and family visited the birthday person, so to bring him best wishes and good.  To me there is nothing more fun than Happy Birthday greetings among friends and family who care… 

Birthdays are strange things, when we are young we can’t wait for them. And when we are older, we pretend they don’t happen J.

I remember when I couldn't  wait to reach 10 (guess the double digit excitement !!), and then 13 ( yes the pleasure of reaching the teens !!), 18  so that I could drive with a license ,( though was riding my sisters two wheeler well before illegal of course !!!!) and then when I reached 21 I was happy that I had the right to vote ( show off the rest that black dot on the finger which marked that you are an adult with a right to vote !!).

As we get older, our birthdays seem to lose their sheen I know many people who prefer to ignore their birthdays. Why do they do that?? !!

I believe that it’s a dishonor to ignore the opportunity to reflect upon the years which have gone by, birthdays are the cherished reminders. It’s less about gifts but more about sitting with loved ones and navigating through all the milestones which you could achieve and also reflect upon those bumpy and bouncy years, when you struggled. And I am sure there would be plenty to talk as well as laugh about.

We have to be real, it’s a birthday and how much one tries to ignore every single person wants it to be celebrated.  

Life is too short, and time is moving faster. And with each passing year, try to change the landscape of life for you and for the ones who matter to you as well.  Birth is the beginning of life ,  so on each birthday ( think of it as a significant occasion !!!), be thankful for coming into this world and accomplishing what all you could and what all you have in your life.

So, now when it’s your birthday, gather family and friends and celebrate. Celebrate the fact that you have lived and learned one more year!!!!  That‘s what I do on my birthday’s!!!

After all on each birthday you don’t become older, you become wiser!!!!

What more can one ask of a birthday!!!!