The biggest challenge faced by people in today’s time is the
feeling that our lives are just spiraling out of control. The events the
circumstances we are in all lead us to a road, a route that has no control over
all the misfortunes and wrong doings that has brought us actually to this
moment in life.
But do you think that our life can change on its own? The
truth is that our life will not change unless and until we take the full responsibility
for it. What matters is our ability to respond, take responsibility of the
situation rather than accepting any form of blame of the situation we get into.
We have to realize that it’s never the events of our lives,
but the way respond to these events will shape-up our lives and create our life.
We have to stop being the creatures of circumstances, and start responding to
the situation in a way that we want, so that we can take our life where we desire.
It’s high time that we stop blaming any and every thing that
happens to us, it’s time we understand that responsibility is not something you
have to go out and search, it’s within us. It’s the power that calls on to us
and makes us realize that it’s we are to be blamed at to whatever happens to us
and no one else. Most of us are conditioned to blame someone else, for all the
parts of our life that don’t work. No one else can make us happy or sad; it’s
our own self which will do that.
We need to get back behind the wheel of our life, take control
and direct the life we choose to live. Do you really think that it’s the
conditions of our life that brings us to the state we are in? The answer is a
big “NO “. It’s not the conditions but rather the decisions as to what things mean
to us and what are we going to do about it, creates the real conditions of our
life.
If we keep on blaming someone or something else, we will
always remain bound, because we would only rely on something or someone to be
responsible for how we feel, for our state of mind and our life. Ultimately it
would be that someone who would be running our life and not we!! Instead we
should get behind the wheel, and drive our life the way we want to, take it
where we need to go rather than going with the flow.
I believe that there are two choices in our life, the
conscious and the other unconscious (no rocket science in it!!). You can go with the flow, sit back, relax and
let the events and the circumstances lead the river of our life and take us
where ever it wants to go or we can have both your hands on the steering wheel,
control your life, we make the decision as to which way we would like to go.
I don t intend to say, by taking responsibility of things,
we will be able to control our life completely or we start living in self pity or
blame. Yes we won’t be able to control all the events of our life, but we will
definitely able to make a decision on which event is important to us, and how
are we going to react to it to bring an outcome.
Taking responsibility is all about being in charge, calling
out our own shots, create our own world. We need to take that shift in the
thinking and behavior. To turn problems in to opportunities and that the key to
turn the ordinary life to something called extraordinary.
We win some we lose some, hence winning and losing in life
is an internal game, no one can take our responsibility or no one can give us
responsibility. it’s like an internal process ,a switch within us that only
needs to either be turned on of turned off.
Life for sure is an amazing adventure, but only if you
perceive it to be one, we are the ones who get to steer the ship of our life
and direct the course. We won’t be ever able to control the wind but what we
can do is direct the sail.
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing – Helen Keller
What is it for you??
