LOVE: “Why do you exist even when I do?
FRIENDSHIP replies: “To put a smile where you have left tears.”
Pal, buddy, companion, whatever you call them, it remains the same, it does not matter what we call our friend, what matters is the bond of love and care we share with each other.
Friendship is the first relation we learn to build as a child, and it’s not taught nor are we aware of it. It’s like a spontaneous urge that we feel. Friendship creates vigor in life and adds color to it, a best gift of god on the earth, is a friend and without friendship life is a like an imprisonment. I would say it’s the best possession we can ever acquire in a lifetime.
Friends have always been essential part of my life. If truth be told, they form the heart of my life and not only a part of it.
When I slip back into the time, yes I have to go years back into my childhood. The time we were all in our pre primary and primary sections …..
Sitting in the circle and eating our tiffin boxes, yet holding the cover of the tiffin box in a peculiar manner so that the other cannot see inside our box. We use to share, the lunch only on being asked what you have got, and with only one condition that we get a share from their box as well!!!
Trying to impress the teacher in the best possible manner so that you become the monitor of the class, and then you had the entire class who wanted to be your friend and you were on everyone’s list of best friends !!!!
I remember we all friends use to wait for each other’s birthdays, why?? The birthday girl, get’s to take one person with her to distribute chocolates to the teachers in the school and we always wanted to be that one chosen one!!! (Made us feel special and the rest a big J)!!!!
When we think of all this now, we laugh over it, but how stupid it may sound now, they were matter of life and death then!!!!
Those were the best days of my life …..
I still remember as a teenager I use to always wonder whom to trust, who would understand me and with whom I want to spend my time. I was the most brilliant person in the world and my parents weren’t. Since texting had not been invented, the one phone, the landline phone, was a life line to my friends; we talked for hours about nothing in particular!!!!
Sitting on the last bench was fun and adventure, bliss of a kind, but why are teachers eye’s always on the backbenchers I wonder!!!
Throwing paper bits on the girls in the front rows and gigging when teacher use to catch them for turning back and being inattentive!!!
Cursed being the lords of the last bench , when even though raising our hands to answer the question were ignored and the teacher’s eye met only the one’s in the front row’s.
The best was, the time when you are least prepared, and you hear your name being called out to answer the questions!!!! And the rest of the class is all turned towards you!!!! “Sorry ma’am “is the answer you have!!!!! Followed by all the giggles including your friends!!! (Only thing on your mind is you too!!! You are my friend!!!! And for the rest, let your time come!!!! )
Taking advantage of your best friend to be the monitor of the class, and taking that extra time to finish the undone homework....
And the day, you seem to be at your worst mood, sleep with your head down and teacher won’t even notice, and by chance she did, your friends spoke in chorus,” she is not feeling well ma’am “!!!!
Making those , great fancy looking scrap –books , and giving it to all the one’s you know , writing the most weirdest things in it and then comparing who has been more creative …….
Those were the best days of my life ……
When I was leaving for college, I had only one school friend who had got in the same college with me (that was a solace of a kind!!!) I went with the conviction to the college that my “best pals “are always going to be my school friends, who I grew up with , I shared my good and bad times ( even my those first crush !!!!!! ). The people I will meet in college are just going to be my “temporary friends”.
But, soon I realized that my college friends have become my real friends too, so what if they were not there with me when I got the first punishment in my school, not there to celebrate my 13th birthday (the entry into the teens!!! as they say), but they were there when I use to struggle with my assignments (majorly statistics!!! ), they lifted me up when the times were tough, they were there to drop me home when it was difficult to get the transport back home.
By age twenty- one, the sweet taste of freedom came along with being a bit responsible. I took up my first job few more after my graduation, when friends got added in the list, with whom I worked side by side and we shared the same goals.
When the chapter called marriage unfolded and I moved to a foreign land , there I got a I got friends who calmed my fears, shared my joys (birth of my son, I never felt that I was away from my family, with them being around at that time), my triumphs and failures.
Now, Most of my friends are either entrenched in their careers, enjoying raising kids or even doing both and we do not get to meet each other often.
Good friends are like stars. You don't always see them, but you always know they are there. Friendship is a commitment for life; you cannot treat it as a contract made on paper. But yes it’s a promise renewed every time you keep in touch.
Now with kid and life’s challenges even I really don’t spend much time with friends. I want all of them to know that even we are apart physically and emotionally, don’t talk often or even for years now, I really appreciate and treasure the friendship, joys and sorrows that we shared….
Though now there are so many attractive and purposeful sites. (All know what I m hinting at yes fb, what’s app bla bla to reunite friends). , I have not been able to keep in touch with lots of old pals as well as the new one’s I have made in my journey of life ( list of reasons are too long !!! ).
Friends are what life is all about.
I hope that the friendship gets better every day and get back all my lost friends and some new to enjoy life to the fullest.
I end this post, dedicating it to all my friends, although I have always found it very difficult to define friendships, I believe that that best things are always best described when they remain UNDESCRIBED.
HAPPY FRIENDSHIPS DAY!!!!!!
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